Bittersweet Fall.


Today marks the first day of the Fall Solstice.  It’s one of my favorite seasons, but this year feels bittersweet.  A month ago on August 22, my dad entered the gates of Heaven. The past few weeks have been heavy on my heart.  There are no words to explain the unbearable heartache, but because I am an extension of my father, I will try to live everyday through him and for him, honoring him in everything that he taught me in life. Living with just half of my heart now, but I choose to let light and God’s Grace in to help me live stronger with more love and compassion.

With that said, I’m going to keep blogging with even more passion and move forward from here on.  After all, my dad was my biggest fan and if he were still here today, he’d encourage me to keep going.

Thank you all for being understanding and sticking with me during this difficult time of my life.  I appreciate each one of you. ❤


All my love,


“Confessions of a self-described introvert.”

“You can’t pour from an empty cup.  Take care of yourself first.”


Occasionally people will ask me “How do you keep up with the increasing pressure to communicate through social media as a blogger?”  Truth is, I get overwhelmed without a doubt by continuous conversations on multiple platforms.  The challenge in blogging for me is that you have to engage a lot.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my readers and being able to share my creativity through my blog…I wouldn’t be where I am now without YOU!  (LOVE YOU GUYS!)

Although some days, I just want to be a hermit.  Us introverts have this natural advantage in knowing how to disconnect.  It’s just our way to get our energy back.  I feel that it’s hard for extroverts to understand that even though we may have strong social skills/enjoy events and business meetings etc., we would much rather be at home in our pajamas.  To get our energy back from being socially drained, we just need quiet time to be back to ourselves.  I crave that space because it gives me a fresh perspective and energy to be able to interact with others again.  So when I’m quiet and MIA on social media, don’t take it personal!  I just have to getaway for a little to refill.  Thank you guys for allowing me to keep it real! ❤


P.S. A new outfit post is coming up after I take a little mental break.  Stay tuned!


“Birthday suit”


Today marks the first day of summer and also my birthday.  To be honest, (let’s keep it real for a sec) I really wasn’t excited about my birthday this year, but I thought about being given another year is a privilege that is denied to many people.  I’ve decided that from here on, I’m going to just count my blessings and not my birthdays.  Today is definitely a gift. #blessed

Thank you all for the birthday wishes, texts, phone calls…also, thank you for being part of my blogging journey.  I don’t know where we are headed, but I am so grateful that along the way, you’ve been with ME.  Thanks for your continuous love and support, I appreciate all of it!  My heart sings with gratitude ❤


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Photo by Gladys Jem

Here’s what I’m wearing // and other options

One piece suit // Plunge neck backless suit
Retro Super Future Sunglasses // Retro Super Future Lucia


HELLO 2016!  365 new days.  365 new chances.

Exactly a year ago, I launched My Style and Grace as my creative outlet in hopes to share my fashion tips and to motivate and help the fashionistas at heart.  I had no idea that my following would grow quite quickly given the fact that I had just started blogging.  My blog has opened a lot of opportunities for me and for that, I’m GRATEFUL for the new connections and friendships that I’ve made so far.  At first, blogging seemed impossible to break into knowing how competitive it is within the industry but with some planning and determination, it can be one of the most rewarding and creative careers around.  So here I am, about to tackle another 365 days of new challenges and goals.  I’m thrilled to see what 2016 has to offer!  I would like to express my gratitude to all of you for following along and for inspiring me to continue writing.  Also, I would like to thank my family, my friends, my boyfriend for their continued love and support throughout my journey.  I am nothing without you, guys!

A huge chunk of my thank you’s and appreciation goes to my sister, Gladys Jem ❤ for snapping my beautiful blog photos.  I’m so thankful for your awe-inspiring talent and creative direction.  We make such a badass sister team!

HAPPY NEW YEAR, EVERYONE!  Here’s to happy new dreams.  Happy new desires.  Happy NEW YOU.  You know those things that you’ve always wanted to do? You should go do them. It is never too late to set another goal or to dream another dream, guys!  I hope you will find this post inspiring.  Have an AMAZING year!

2016, I am coming for you!



Photo by Gladys Jem

“My most precious JEM.”



“Beauty can be seen in all things, seeing and composing the beauty is what separates the snapshot from the photograph.” – Matt Hardy

Photo by Gladys Jem


Most of you know that my beautiful and talented sister, Gladys Jem is the person responsible for all my lovely blog photos.  She is actually a wedding photographer based in San Francisco.  Without her behind the lens, my blog would be lifeless and this awesome  sister team would not exist!  Today, I would like to give a shoutout to this wonderful human and praise her exquisite work.

This past weekend, I watched my sissy photograph my best friend’s wedding.  I’ve never seen her in action and in full-on work mode until that day.  It’s no surprise that she snaps amazing photos because she savors the peachy moments – every hundredth of a second of it.  She will never settle for less than perfect, but will strive to craft images that will last a lifetime.  Shots that make her (and you will too) squeal with excitement because it’s so dang good.  Fun fact: she sometimes squeals when she gets the “money shot”. Haha!

I just wanted to share this #proudsissymoment because seeing her photograph the bride and groom and making sure their expectations were met is pretty darn awesome.  This woman is passionate in what she does and is really good at it!  Please take a moment to check out some of the weddings she’s done and this one that was featured on Style Me Pretty recently. The city hall elopements are my personal favorite. 🙂

Thank you sissy for my fabulous #ootd shots, for teaching me how to “smize” (smiling with your eyes), and for telling me to not “make that face”.  You know, the face that I always make when I am not “feeling it/myself” during our photo sessions.  Let’s be honest: sometimes there are moments when I am not photogenic at all.  Haha!  Thank goodness for your posing and directing tips!  You are my precious JEM. ❤






“Made in L.A.”

Because a woman can’t step out of her home empty-handed.  When I’m on the go, I grab my keys, phone, wallet and lip balm and as soon as you know it, my hands are full and I am not pleased.  I’m not a fan of carrying big purses all the time because I find it difficult to manage all the contents (hundreds of bobby pins, lipstick tubes, Advil, eye drops, vitamins…) running into each other and creating a hot mess. Sometimes, I feel that I overstuff my purse and I just end up looking clumsy carrying it around.  Clutches however, will make you want to get rid of the unnecessary clutter and just keep whatever you need the most!  Smaller but efficient and perfect for that busy girl (that’s me!) that’s always on the go.

Hoping to invest in a staple clutch that you’ll carry through all seasons?  Do you simply want to add another bright bag to your accessories collection?  Looking for that one that screams “carry me!”?  What if I told you that you can customize your own?  Essex Los Angeles has you covered.

These custom-made clutches are made in L.A. designed by YOU.  You choose your size, leather, zipper color, and the lining and voilà!  You’ve got a great clutch with utility value that suits your personality.

I had so much fun shooting with the beautiful Maya from My Life as Maya in downtown Los Angeles showcasing Essex L.A.’s new colors for this season.  From cheetah print to bright, bold colors, these beauties will carry you through summer weddings to evenings out with your girlfriends! ❤





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Photos by Steven Pearson

“Feature X My Style and Grace Pop-Up”

SF!  We’re coming for ya!  My Spring fling with Feature is turning into the real thing. Pop in, sip and shop for new arrivals + exclusive markdowns + some music + bubbly and small bites!  Come hang out and support your local girl gang. ❤


Can’t make it?  We’ve got you covered.  Click on the links below and shop my looks here!


Get Bodied Dress by WYLDR


Opening Ceremony Crop Top / Opening Ceremony Skirt


PepTalk Leather Skirt / Dash Sunglasses 


Cut-Throat Heroin Dress


I’m Yours Midi Skirt


Sheer Overlay Halter


Art Skool Skort


The Space Between Crop Top / Tommy Faux Leather Shorts


Love Lace Maxi Dress

Photos by Gladys Jem

Looking forward to seeing you there!  XOXO

“My newest love affair – Feature Clothing”

Is it possible to fall in love on Instagram?  I guess you could say that it was love at first sight, but they had me at “double tap”.  We met, sparks flew, and before I knew it, my love affair with Feature began.  If you have the chemistry, you only need one thing: timing.  Feature Clothing reached out to me for their launch as I was in the midst of launching my blog around the same time.  Ahh!  How crazy is that?!  Now that’s what you call fate.  This is no longer a fling, it is becoming THE real thing! ❤

The #bossladies behind Feature are Jacklyn N. and Kyyah L.  After learning more about them, I’ve spent a disproportioned amount of time thinking about all the awesome women out there who are doing their thing and how I can be like them.  Well, these two are definitely on my list.  I’ve been told to do what I love and to only surround myself with people who are going to lift me higher..well, here they are!  Learn a little more about this dynamic duo in this short interview we did and see why it is such a treat to have joined this girl gang.

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 1. How did FEATURE clothing come about? Tell us more about you!

How FEATURE came to be is rather serendipitous. Kyyah and I have been best friends for half of our lives. If you were to look at us then, you’d see what an odd pairing we were—one geeky Vietnamese girl in Triple 5 Soul and baggie pants, and the other: braces, overall pant legs rolled up, and N0LimitDiva15 screen name! As we matured, fashion still bonded us. Kyyah grew to become a merchandising superstar in LA and Hawaii and I was working on copywriting and marketing for start ups in California. Neither of us felt satisfied working for someone else. So, an idea led to more serious talks and more “should we’s?” and just when we needed that extra push, Kyyah’s husband took a job offer in California.. placing us in the same city again. A calming moment of “if not now, when?” and “ will we EVER really feel ready?” came and we decided to just take a leap. From there, we organized, got right, and here we are (give and take a few extra mishaps and crying in the shower moments).

2. Can you tell us what your typical customer is?

Hmm, well Google Analytics says our customer is….just kidding.
Our girl is definitely self-possessed, and knows what she likes, but at the same time isn’t rigid in her ways. She’s on the pulse with what’s in, and enjoys being an early adopter of emerging designers and brands. Basically, she’s the girl that tells her friends what they should be wearing and is always met with, “No way. Nah, I don’t like that”.. only to end up embracing the trend months later.

FEATURE was founded with this woman—so much in fact that the manifesto is written on the Letters from the Curators page of the website.  We select pieces and brands with this woman in mind and now our continuous mission is just to find you all and let you know we’re here!

3. What advice can you give someone who would someday like to start their own business?

Kyyah: Surround yourself with like-minded people that are striving for similar goals as you and be willing to support, encourage, and uplift one another. Also, don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and build never know where a conversation with someone can lead you.

Jacklyn: Take everything with a grain of salt. It’s easy to float on hot air when you’re doing well and everyone is congratulating or complimenting you, and just as easy to get dragged down when you hear negative comments or criticism. The key is to remain grounded– take compliments with humility and negative comments as constructively as you can without letting it eat away at your confidence. Oh, and get ready to WORK your ass off.

4. If you had a chance to work with a celebrity boss lady, who would it you have the pleasure of working with? Why is that?

Oh my gosh, there are SO many women kicking butt nowadays that it would be so hard to choose just one. The obvious choice would be the #girlboss herself, Sophia Amoruso. She built a brand—a movement really–based on straight hustle and smarts and being herself unapologetically. The fact that she started this all in the Bay Area? Well, that just makes it so much sweeter.
But, honestly, any girl out there that just goes for it is someone we want to be around.

5. What can we look forward to in the future from FEATURE?

More snarky captions. More bad ass emerging designers and hopefully exclusive pieces with different brands. More pop-ups in different states. More, more, more!

A true love story never ends…follow me @mystyleandgrace and @shopfeature on IG and stay tuned for more. ❤


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To K & J, thank you for making me your newest muse.

Create + Cultivate Los Angeles Conference

A week ago, I attended my first conference, Create + Cultivate with one of my girlfriends, Joanne  from Go fit Jo and also met up with my other blogger gal pal Chelsea from The Millenial Miss in L.A.  If you read one of my posts from this past month, I mentioned that I actually won the tickets to this conference!  Lucky me, right?!  From the vendors to the sponsors and attendees, the energy in the place was exciting and fun! The warehouse was packed with aspiring creatives who were eager to learn from a talented list of panelists, hosts and mentors.  It was a pretty long day, (8 AM – 8 PM) but it was informative and encouraging!

So, what did I learn?  Dreams don’t work unless YOU do. I learned that investing in myself and in my future requires hard work.  When I first started my blog, I didn’t realize the amount of work and time spent behind it.  I am still acquiring new things as I go! So far, it has been a little challenging trying to find balance between work and my personal life, but you know what? I am doing what I LOVE!  I also learned that building relationships and a strong community is valuable and should be mutually beneficial. They also talked about developing and creating a personal brand, but staying true and authentic to yourself at the same time.  This advice was beneficial for me because by staying true to myself, I am able to discover my purpose and capable of following through and reaching my goals with blogging. I left the conference feeling confident, ready to work and tackle on new challenges.  Today, I’d like to leave you with a positive reminder in hopes that you will utilize it one day : No matter what you do, keep it honest, simple, and most importantly, keep it YOU. ❤





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And of course, my looks from last weekend!

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Here’s what I’m wearing // and other options

Zara White tank // Leith Racer back tank
Denim and Supply Boyfriend Jeans // Blank Destroyed Boyfriend Jeans
Senso Leopard booties // Kurt Geiger Leopard booties


Here’s what I’m wearing // and other options

Sezane x Madewell sweatshirt // Carven Molleton sweatshirt
Topshop Pleated skirt // Asos metallic pleated skirt
Marc by Marc Jacobs laptop sleeve // Rebecca Minkoff Iridescent clutch
Maison Valentino Rockstud kitten heel


Here’s what I’m wearing // and other options

For Love and Lemons bra // Silence + Noise strappy bra
For Love and Lemons Suede lace skirt (worn in S for longer style) // Karen Kane lace skirt
Rayban Original Aviators // Rogue Eyewear Aviators

Create + Cultivate 2015




I am over the moon excited to announce that I will be attending this year’s Create + Cultivate conference in Los Angeles, a creative workshop hosted by top bloggers, influencers & craftsmen!  And exactly how did I score this once in a lifetime opportunity?  I entered their ticket giveaway on Instagram and I was picked as the winner just yesterday!  WOOHOO!  (Thank you guys for picking me by the way!)  I still can’t believe that I am going to be rubbing shoulders with the best of the industry and learn from amazing hosts, panelists, and mentors.  The lineup this year is crazy good! From Whitney Port @whitneyeveport to The Fat Jew @thefatjewish just to name a few!  And Bay Area native and one of my favorite fashion bloggers Aimee Song @songofstyle as one of the keynote speakers?  Yes, please!  Excuse me while I do my happy dance!

This is going to be such a great opportunity for me to meet fellow bloggers from all over the country in addition to learning tips on how to grow my blog.  I started mystyleandgrace just earlier this year and I have been blessed to have such great followers and readers who look up to me and find inspiration in what I do so far.  I love the feeling that it leaves me with and it makes me want to keep going and get better in what I do.  I am ready to take this to another level and I can’t wait to see what the future has in store for me!  I have to start making these dreams into reality!

Have a wonderful day to you all! ❤